Open bar. GOOD music, a live band/musician if possible. Officiated by someone we respect and NOT someone from the government here. No church. Lots of candids, few stiff, posed photos. GOOD food and a lot of it. Potted plants, not cut flowers--or at least something still very much alive. Bright, lots of color, nothing really somber. Snow. Maybe I'll give you a letter as part of the ceremony. You in coattails.